Can we chat ? .. !!!
Admit or not but if you are reading this blog you probably are among one of those(us) who have evolved a virtual self of oneself in this Cyber Space. Dont we find it easy to communiticate in this virtual world than the real..... why is that we prefer messenger over meeting up personally ..... given that time and efforts are not always the constraints ... why is more exciting to have chat with fake ids ... ones in which you also tend to manipulate your personal information about sex, age, race than generally speaking up with a stranger ..... how many strangers have to met for the first time and befriended without knowing much and is that figure comparable to your chat mates about whose real existence you are not even sure of!!!
So, how does it matter and does it make any difference... am I not still the same ??? .... this is probably the question that first irks in our minds .... well the answer is... to start with it really doesnt make much of a difference but slowly one tends to to potray oneself as what he thinks he should have been rather than what he actually is ... responses from a person on the cyberspace may be much contrasting to the real life.
Consider this situation in which a staid housewife and mother of three small children developed a cyberself that was into violent virtual sex and various forms of cyber pornography. She developed this cyberself over several months and she began to spend more and more time in cyberspace projecting as this licentious cyberself. Suddenly, last summer, her normal personality transitioned into this cyberspace personality, that she called "Linda". In front of her children and with her husband looking on in disbelief, she stripped naked and performed an obscene erotic dance. She needed to be institutionalized (from a web article).
Though not all reach such extremities but everyone(atleast I do) of us to some extent would agree that the behavioral patterns which we share on the web and in reality are different to some extent. People are most pretentious here and when a like situation is encountered, the virtual responses again would be quiet different than the real. Its more of what you would like to than what you actually are.
The anonymity of ones identity is the most potent tool that works both for and against you. "For" because it is potentially liberating and beneficial at times as people put aside their complexions as there is not much of worrying about ones identity and "Against" because you are not being true to yourself at times by potraying ideas which can be done only under the veil of anonymity.
Though this can lead to serious psychological problems it often leads from simple things like a lack of understanding concerning the proper way to develop, nurture and manage diverse cyberselves. Its more of self-understanding and self-acceptance.
Ever wondered having so many virtual friends and virtual messenger ids would have such implications about yourself !!!..... can we chat now ;) ??
So, how does it matter and does it make any difference... am I not still the same ??? .... this is probably the question that first irks in our minds .... well the answer is... to start with it really doesnt make much of a difference but slowly one tends to to potray oneself as what he thinks he should have been rather than what he actually is ... responses from a person on the cyberspace may be much contrasting to the real life.
Consider this situation in which a staid housewife and mother of three small children developed a cyberself that was into violent virtual sex and various forms of cyber pornography. She developed this cyberself over several months and she began to spend more and more time in cyberspace projecting as this licentious cyberself. Suddenly, last summer, her normal personality transitioned into this cyberspace personality, that she called "Linda". In front of her children and with her husband looking on in disbelief, she stripped naked and performed an obscene erotic dance. She needed to be institutionalized (from a web article).
Though not all reach such extremities but everyone(atleast I do) of us to some extent would agree that the behavioral patterns which we share on the web and in reality are different to some extent. People are most pretentious here and when a like situation is encountered, the virtual responses again would be quiet different than the real. Its more of what you would like to than what you actually are.
The anonymity of ones identity is the most potent tool that works both for and against you. "For" because it is potentially liberating and beneficial at times as people put aside their complexions as there is not much of worrying about ones identity and "Against" because you are not being true to yourself at times by potraying ideas which can be done only under the veil of anonymity.
Though this can lead to serious psychological problems it often leads from simple things like a lack of understanding concerning the proper way to develop, nurture and manage diverse cyberselves. Its more of self-understanding and self-acceptance.
Ever wondered having so many virtual friends and virtual messenger ids would have such implications about yourself !!!..... can we chat now ;) ??
posted by SaiK at 7:34 AM
6 Comments:
well..leaving a comment rather than replying personally would not be perfect answer.
by the way..i have a question that u might blog on nxt time..
are we using the net to express our views since we can't do it in the"real" world????
that's not just for u...for all the bloggers...and commenters like me...
@anonymous: Ya you may be in a way right and I had thought of writing on this too (why do I blog) .... its again the freedom and anonymity to some extent that triggers this ..... knowing that even if people are laughing at ur expressions they arent doing it on your face evades the fear of expressing youself ... though by expressing yourself in a bunch of people may provide much more constuctive feedback but we have stopped caring .....
Can i know ur name or u still prefer the veil !!! ....thanks and keep visiting
well written..actually if u see the present scenario i believe[rather more than me my mom does ;)]v r all cyber/net addicts..b it anything say bloggin,chattin,orkuttin,googling etc..itz true tht da best part is the anonymity..and at times itz fun too..but evn i have observed many ppl who have a totally different alter ego in the cyberspace and wht they r in reality is like a different individual altogether..one can kill one's loneliness as well as satisfy one's desires all thanks2 the anonymity status..
hey ... nice to see you after long .... i am pretty much convinced by ur arguements ... though would like to comment that you seem very positive towards your appraoch ... cheers !!!
itz not tht im positive..itz jst tht itz happenin all around me..though stil im not involved thankfully.. :)..itz been a long time aftr whch im bloggin..check out my new post..ciao!!
If you've read Freud, u'll see the housewife incident in a different light. It's the outpouring of suppressed sexual urges, the 'libido', something she wasn't able to do in real life. Hence, this may be seen as a case of the real person appearing on virtual space, and not a person portrraying himself as he thinks he should be(as u seem to suggest in the previous paragraph)
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